Discipleship Part 5: Grace and Truth

Discipleship is necessarily a community project. We are in relationship with others; we are learning about ourselves; we are knit into the family of God, and we help others grow.  We are all in process. I need to speak up when I see something in someone’s life, and I want them to do the same with me. Encourage, correct, warn, and empower. Scripture is clear: this is not an optional part of our walk with Jesus. We grow as disciples when we speak into one another’s lives.

If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them… Luke 17:3 If someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently… Galatians 6:1 Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds… Hebrews 10:24

How? You can probably think of people who speak too much, and their words lose their power. Or, maybe you can think of people who only speak critically. Beyond just a good balance, there is an intentional target we can aim for. John writes that “…grace and truth came through Jesus Christ.” John 1:17. I have found these words very practically link up well with the concepts of “invitation and challenge.” Think of your conversations, interactions, and expectations within a relationship as being plotted on an x/y axis.

This simple framework has helped me think through how my words land on someone I am discipling. Discipleship needs both. Wisdom discerns which to lean into more. When leading a small group, working through a bible study, or when serving on a team, these are always at play.

Discipleship needs both.

• Invitation says “come” and “there is grace” and “I want relationship” and “I see you.” It is warm, relational and creates a sense of connection that is safe.

• Challenge says “change” or “truth demands a response” or “I see in you something new” or “lets take that hill!”

If discipleship becomes only invitation, we can create a version of Christianity that asks very little of us. It may be comfortable, but it is shallow. Jesus doesn't invite us to remain exactly as we are.

If discipleship becomes only challenge, Christianity can become exhausting. Push hard enough, and truth without grace can produce shame rather than transformation.

Invitation and challenge. Grace and truth. We don’t just choose one. Healthy discipleship holds both together.

Reflection

• Do I tend toward invitation or challenge? What are examples?

• Where might I need to show or communicate more grace?

• Where might I need to show or communicate more truth?

• Consider using the diagram above and ask a small group you lead or someone you are discipling, “How can I grow?